There are a thousand and one ways to not see what is staring at you. The trouble is, what is staring at you, is what you have asked for. The point of life is to deal with certain difficult things: difficult for you. The same thing could be easy for someone else, and quite likely is. So what they say is easy or hard, should be taken as if they always say, at the end of every sentence, "for me." As in"Aw get real, going running every morning is easy [for me]!" or "Dieting is tough, losiong weight is always followed by gaining it back again [for me]." Now this is oversimplified - but try adding a personal attribution to statements of fact, and see if it starts to feel a bit different.
Back to ourselves now. What is hard for me, is hard for me. No need to qualify it, apologise for it or in any way try to make it more than it is. If I can't handle spiders - I can't handle spiders. There's no judgement there, unless someone adds it. If I procrastinate about something, that's what I do; there's a reason for it and I need not feel guilt or anxiety or have feelings of worthlessness or shame - its just what I do. No judgement. I asked for this life and knew there would be issues to overcome. The point is - recognise what we do, and try to be better. That's why we are incarnated. That's why we asked to be born, to live and experience pleasure and the pain of this life.
So why do we try to be better? Because we are living this life disconnected from GOD/LOVE: we strain, we seek we wonder, we deny, we writhe against our feelings of aloneness - and the more we can do in this wilderness, the richer does GOD's love feel when we are bathing in it again. The more we can overcome the very things that stifle, that stymie, that block and hold us back (expressing love, sympathy, compassion or tenderness: spending time with parents or children or strangers or outcasts), the more we achieve our spirit goals and reasons for incarnating in the first place.
Being able to see what is staring at you, and meeting it, gives you the fortitude to move on and get closer to the love that as spirits we all are part of. Avoiding it simply means the thing that is staring at you will keep staring and obscuring more and more of your vision until you let yourself deal with it; in this life or the next, or the next. Your soul wants to succeed - why not save some time and believe what you see?
